Online Therapy for imposter syndromeWhen success never feels like enough
Online CBT with Lisa Marini for adults across the UK. Develop confidence grounded in reality, rather than constant achievement or external validation.
Sessions in English & Italian
Most people experience moments of self-doubt. Imposter syndrome is different. It isn’t simply doubting your abilities. It’s feeling unable to trust your own achievements, no matter how much evidence exists that you’ve earned them. Perhaps you’ve been promoted but worry someone will eventually realise you aren’t as capable as they think. Perhaps you constantly compare yourself to colleagues who seem more confident, assuming they know something you don’t.
Perhaps every success feels temporary, while every mistake feels like confirmation that you were never good enough in the first place. From the outside, people often see someone who is competent, hardworking and successful. Inside, however, it can feel as though you’re constantly trying to avoid being "found out."
Understanding it
Imposter syndrome isn’t a lack of ability
One of the most confusing aspects of imposter syndrome is that more success rarely makes it disappear. People often believe:
Once I become more experienced, I’ll finally feel confident.
Yet the promotion arrives. The degree is completed. The business grows. The praise continues. And somehow the feeling remains. That’s because imposter syndrome isn’t caused by a lack of competence. It’s caused by the way competence is interpreted. Achievements are explained away. Mistakes are magnified. Positive feedback is questioned. Criticism is remembered for years.
Over time, your mind develops a remarkably consistent rule:
Anything good doesn’t really count. Anything bad reveals the truth.
Living with that rule is exhausting. No amount of success ever feels sufficient because success never becomes part of the evidence.
What I help with
Difficulties commonly associated with imposter syndrome
Imposter syndrome affects people in different ways and often overlaps with other emotional difficulties.
I commonly support people experiencing:
- Persistent self-doubt
- Fear of failure
- Perfectionism
- High-achieving anxiety
- Difficulty accepting praise
- Fear of being judged
- Excessive comparison with others
- Overworking to avoid making mistakes
- Difficulty recognising personal achievements
- Feeling like a fraud despite objective success
What keeps it going
The cycle that keeps imposter syndrome going
Many people respond to imposter syndrome by working even harder. They spend longer preparing than anyone else. They check everything repeatedly before submitting it. They avoid asking questions because they worry they’ll appear incompetent. They compare themselves with people who seem more knowledgeable or confident. On the surface, these strategies often lead to excellent performance.
Ironically, they also prevent people from recognising their own ability. If success follows countless extra hours of preparation, it becomes easy to conclude:
I only managed because I worked harder than everyone else.
Instead of building confidence, achievement becomes further evidence that extraordinary effort is required simply to appear competent. Therapy helps interrupt this cycle by exploring not only the beliefs that fuel self-doubt, but also the behaviours that quietly stop confidence from developing. The aim isn’t to eliminate humility. It’s to develop a more accurate and balanced understanding of your own abilities.
How therapy helps
How therapy can help
Many people believe confidence comes from achieving more. In reality, confidence grows when we begin interpreting our experiences differently. Together we explore the assumptions that have shaped the way you evaluate yourself and the rules you’ve been living by, often without realising it. We identify the habits that unintentionally keep self-doubt alive and gradually test new ways of responding to uncertainty, mistakes and success itself.
One of the most important shifts people experience isn’t becoming convinced that they’re exceptional. It’s becoming less dependent on proving themselves every single day. Confidence becomes something that develops from a realistic understanding of your abilities rather than from constantly chasing reassurance through achievement.
My approach
I use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), one of the most extensively researched psychological therapies for difficulties involving self-belief, perfectionism and persistent self-doubt. Therapy is collaborative, practical and tailored to your individual experiences. Rather than focusing on building confidence through encouragement alone, we work together to understand why your achievements fail to change the way you see yourself and what continues to maintain those patterns today.
The aim isn’t to convince you that you’re more capable than you really are. It’s to help you evaluate yourself with the same fairness, balance and evidence that you naturally apply to other people.
Online sessions
Online therapy for imposter syndrome across the UK
Although I am based in Manchester, I provide online therapy for adults throughout the UK. Online sessions allow you to access therapy wherever you are in the UK, making it easier to fit support around work, professional commitments and everyday life while receiving the same structured and collaborative approach.
Before we begin
Your questions,
answered.
You don’t need to have everything figured out before getting in touch.
Can therapy help even if I’m actually doing well?
Yes. In fact, many people experiencing imposter syndrome are objectively performing well in their careers, studies or personal lives. The difficulty isn’t usually a lack of ability. It’s finding that achievements never seem to change the way you see yourself. Therapy helps explore why success has become so difficult to believe and how a more balanced view of yourself can begin to develop.
Do I need to know where my imposter syndrome comes from?
Not necessarily. Sometimes people can identify experiences that shaped the way they evaluate themselves. Other times there isn’t one obvious explanation. Understanding your history can be helpful, but therapy isn’t about searching endlessly for one cause. While we acknowledge how earlier experiences may have influenced your beliefs, our main focus is understanding what continues to maintain them today and what can be changed in the present.
Will therapy make me feel confident all the time?
No one feels confident all the time. The goal isn’t to remove every moment of self-doubt. It’s to help you develop a more balanced relationship with uncertainty so that confidence is no longer dependent on being perfect or constantly proving your worth.
How many therapy sessions will I need?
That is entirely up to you. Therapy isn’t something you commit to for a fixed period, and you are always in control of how long you choose to continue. Some people come to therapy to work through one specific difficulty or life event, while others prefer to take more time to explore longer-standing patterns and make gradual changes.
During our first sessions, we’ll discuss your goals and regularly review how therapy is progressing, so you can decide what feels most helpful for you.
Take the first step
A little space
for something to change.
Living with imposter syndrome can feel like spending years trying to earn a place you’ve already earned. No matter how much you achieve, the finish line keeps moving. Therapy offers an opportunity to step out of that cycle. Not by convincing yourself that you’re exceptional, but by developing a more realistic and compassionate understanding of your abilities, allowing success to become something you can recognise rather than something you constantly have to prove.
Book a free consultation to talk about what’s happening and whether working together feels right for you.
Based in Manchester · Online across the UK
Therapy in English & Italian
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